New Years Resolutions

I haven’t done New Year’s resolutions in years. In my mid twenties I decided they were chock full of added pressure to be perfect and I was already plagued with plenty of perfectionist anxiety. This year however, I changed my mind. There was something calling me to put down in writing just a handful of things I’d like to resolve to do. This isn’t a “go big or go home” kind of resolution list. It is a quieter, subtler one that I truly believe I can achieve. It is a list of five things I resolve to do, not want to do or hope to do or intend to do. I resolve to do…I will do, because I actually can.

1. I Resolve To Commit To Three Days A Week Of Self Care.

What does that mean? Well, to me it means that I am determined to carve time out of my day just three days a week to do something for my mind, body or soul. I could have said three days a week of exercise or meditation or sacred ritual or pampering or journaling but I figured “self care” kind of encompasses all of that and all of that is what I mean.

2. I Resolve To Practice My Spirituality At Least Once A Week.

When I was a kid that meant attending church for three hours every Sunday. Now, it may still mean attending church on Sunday or it may mean skipping church and instead gathering my kids and husband around me to say a family prayer, burn some incense and set some positive intentions for the day, the week or the year. It may mean downloading Joel Osteen’s latest sermon and spending twenty minutes holed up behind closed doors to listen and experience his spiritual insight without interruption. It could even mean going for an hour long walking meditation where I drink in the glory of the heavens in the air around me. Whatever I decide it means on the day I choose to honor my resolution I will be sure that it is something that brings me closer to the grace, inspiration and blessings that are mine.

3. I Resolve To Read At Least One Book A Month That Inspires, Moves Or Simply Entertains Me.

Before kids, the blog, DIY and let’s be totally honest, the damn cell phone I used to read at least two to three books a month. I could crack open a book right after breakfast, make myself comfortable on the couch or even laying prone in bed, book held in arms straight above me and not move from that position for hours except to pee or eat. By dinner time I’d be more than half way through and if it was a really good book I’d stay up until the wee hours of the morning to finish it. Good God I miss those days! Though they are gone until the last of my children leave the nest, I know if I put my phone away at night instead of scrolling through my news feed, or Instagram or crushing one more level of Candy Crush I would have time to get through at least two to four chapters of a good book before sleep overtakes me. I may not be able to dedicate an entire day to reading as I once did but I sure as hell can dedicate a few hours a week! The inspiration, clarity, enlightenment and entertainment I used to glean from all my reading made me a better, more educated and compassionate person. I’d like to get back to her this year and I resolve to do so.

4. I Resolve To Commit At Least Two Days A Week To My Writing Either By Doing Or By Learning.

I want to write. Maybe my love of books and stories is what set that particular candle burning but I really want to write. This blog has been an incredible opportunity for me to do just that but now I want to take it further. I want to try writing all kinds of things. Fiction, non fiction, short stories, long stories, essays, screenplays. I might be total crap but I’m tired of letting the fear of being total crap keep me from even trying. So I am determined this year to start putting in my 10,000 hours either by taking classes, reading how to’s or just doing it already. When a passion for something burns so deeply in you that it’s still smoldering twenty years after you first had the thought then I think you have to just go for it. The outcome doesn’t even really matter at this point. It’s more about honoring the fire and fanning the flame.

5. I Resolve To Taking At Least One Night A Month To Put My Husband And My Marriage First.

I bet a lot of us have got this one on their list. It’s pretty common I think to let kids, households, jobs, chores, workouts, dinners, groceries, friends, and pretty much everything else come before your spouse or your marriage. Josh and I are usually pretty good about reeling it back it when the marriage starts to slide but I want to need less reeling and have more date nights! I want us to get out of the house for an evening and make it about us, not fall exhausted into the couch in front of the tv cocktail in hand once the kids are in bed. Once a month someone else will help us put our children to bed and we will sty out late at our favorite restaurant eating dessert, sipping another drink and calling Uber to take us home.

I’m not sure I’ll stop with just these five and I’m not sure if I’ll stick to the rule of resolutions being a start of the new year tradition. Who’s to say that I can’t set a new resolution every month. Maybe every week if I want. I’ve already got a couple more brewing that should be written down. Like my need to spend more of my time living and focusing on the moment. Or my desire to spend an entire day by myself every once in awhile. I haven’t decided if I resolve to do these things or not, I’m being very mindful of not overwhelming myself with tasks, or to do’s because that would just defeat the purpose. The beauty of resolutions though is that they are entirely within our own control. We can set them, do them, not do them, set a few more, change them or bag them all together and the only person we have to answer to about them is ourselves. So I might regal you all with a few more next month, and the one after but I’ll let you know how these are coming first! Happy New Year my crafty friends! Here’s to two thousand great-teen!!

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41 Comments

  • Alek Felis

    Hello Katherine!
    How is Gracie?! I was worried.
    One of my resolution for this year is to follow more strict few blogs and this is on the top of course. Thank you for the inspiration you are!

    January 15, 2018 at 7:38 am Reply
  • Klaude

    Your resolution list is like a twin to mine. I finally got Scrivener, a writing platform, and started outlining my book. It will also have an album in the back sleeve. It’s been a dream my whole life. Time to make this baby a reality. You make me smile!

    January 15, 2018 at 12:49 pm Reply
  • Caroline Mcdonnell

    That’s a good list. Ive been keen to take part in the national write a novel in November challenge and might finally get around to it this year. I look forward to hear how you get on as the year progresses

    January 15, 2018 at 12:55 pm Reply
  • Teresa

    Truly inspiring resolutions, and all easily attainable. I def need to work on my spirituality this year. It has long been neglected.

    January 15, 2018 at 1:13 pm Reply
  • Rachel

    As mom’s it is so vital that we make some time for ourselves. I find that by doing so it makes me much happier. 1 and 3 are on my list as well. Happy New Year!

    January 15, 2018 at 2:35 pm Reply
  • Barbara Reeves

    I could not agree with you more on every aspect of this blog! Except maybe (smile) following faith daily. It keeps me sane. I joke that it keeps me from killing people (grin).

    I promise if I see a book on a shelve in the store with your name as author, I will read it.

    I hope you and your family have a great year.

    January 15, 2018 at 2:38 pm Reply
  • Marta Madrid

    I agree with three of your resolutions and I haven’t got resolutions for years but mine are similar to yours!
    – writing and making my publishing business work ( 2 days a week) I have published a book from another author but why not publish my own writing?
    – to read one book a month ( I could not do it last year because I bought a new flat and moved)
    – Three days exercising a week, or I like your self-care resloution.

    January 15, 2018 at 2:51 pm Reply
  • Tracy Bittner

    Very good resolutions. It’s amazing how quickly, especially as mothers and wives, our time is not our own. We gladly give to others but not to ourselves. I have made many of these same promises to myself this year!

    January 15, 2018 at 2:51 pm Reply
  • Danielle G.

    Hi Katherine,

    Those are some great resolutions. I like how each has a special meaning to you and how you have allotted time for them (i.e. one day a week). The timeframes are manageable so that they are not overwhelming.

    All the best in 2018!

    P.S. I am also wondering how Grace is doing. I hope she is doing better.

    January 15, 2018 at 3:03 pm Reply
  • Anna Maier

    Your posts are truly inspiring -I’ve just written down some mid-January resolutions. So thank you for your ideas!
    P.s. I especially like your 4th resolution. Your style is witty and unique. I hope you’ll share some of your writing with us.

    January 15, 2018 at 3:04 pm Reply
  • Karin

    I’m right there with you on the whole resolutions thing. Yet I have tried the last few years and only been so-so at keeping them. This year, I simplified them a little which I hope will help.

    Kudos for aiming to get past the ‘fear of being crap’ when it comes to writing. It’s daunting, I know, but I don’t doubt that you can do it. Have you considered trying your hand at fanfiction to start out with? That’s how I started writing, and though I’ve not ventured beyond it much myself several of my friends have gone on to get published. Worth a shot?

    January 15, 2018 at 3:16 pm Reply
  • Ivona

    Dear Katherine,
    You have such a wonderful soul and I love your blog. I am sure you will get through with all of your resolutions.
    Every single one of them is enriching and mindfull.
    Hope You and your family will have the most beautiful year.
    Love, Ivona

    January 15, 2018 at 3:17 pm Reply
  • Marcia

    Thank you for your inspiration Katherine, I enjoy reading your blog….don’t stop! God bless you and your family in the coming year!

    January 15, 2018 at 4:11 pm Reply
  • Patricia Boyle

    I love reading your Heavenly Days bulletins.

    The photo of you and the snowy mountains is appropriate for this time of year. Here in eastern Ontario (Canada), we just had a 10″ snowfall; I hate winter.

    I have been a fan since seeing you in “Gray’s Anatomy” and just watched “Home Sweet Hell.” My husband gave me the DVD for Christmas since he knows that I love your films.

    Great resolutions. I don’t make resolutions; I just live each day in the best manner possible.

    Just to remark on your reading resolution: I have a 6,000 book library and everything is catalogued on a database. I have been an avid reader since childhood.

    January 15, 2018 at 4:11 pm Reply
  • Marcia

    Hi Katherine, Thank you got your inspiration! I love reading your blog, don’t stop writing! God bless you and your family this coming year!

    January 15, 2018 at 4:13 pm Reply
  • Mom Cat

    I stumbled across your blog by accident, and I have to say, I love reading your thoughts. I can really relate to you, and I find your resolutions in line with my own. I always liked you as an actress, butI like you even more after discovering you blog! xoxo

    January 15, 2018 at 5:16 pm Reply
  • Dora Avramioti

    Hello Katherine!
    I am a big fan of you from Greece.
    I love that you share thoughts and moments of your life.
    I agree that every woman has to spend time on her own;i feel much better since when i started doing this.Can it be the hour after the girls go to bed?Or just walking around at the shops?Or reading a book?
    I just do it & feel perfect!
    Keep going! <3

    January 15, 2018 at 5:42 pm Reply
  • Tricia

    You are an inspiration ♡ You are a great writer, you bring us in and always coming back for more, thank you! Can’t wait for your books! Happy, healthy safe New Year ☆♡
    Tricia

    January 15, 2018 at 5:46 pm Reply
  • Shanaya

    Yes!! I’m stealing your resolution plan. Let us know how you are getting on with them.

    January 15, 2018 at 6:16 pm Reply
  • Syuzanna

    Dearest Katherine,
    Thank you again for sharing your personal life with your followers and admirers!
    I love the idea “to resolve” and I am going to follow your steps this year. Usually, I do not make any resolutions as they never even come close to reality, however ideas, such as your jotted down ones, are absolutely realistic and accomplishable ( as long as we stick to them hahah). So 3 months from now, I’d say, you should write another blog and reveal whether you are able to actually stick to your list.
    I am going to make my list tonight and look back at it in 3 months as well.
    Truly yours with love,
    Syuzanna

    January 15, 2018 at 6:19 pm Reply
  • Frances

    Thank you, Katherine. These resonate with me. Gretchen Rubin who wrote The Four Tendencies and The Happiness Project, also approached resolutions in a similar way. She suggested writing down 18 for 2018 – 18 things you wanted to do for yourself, such as take a Tai Chi class or go bird watching with your husband. I always enjoy reading your blog. Wishing you the best in 2018!

    January 15, 2018 at 6:23 pm Reply
  • Hope

    I feel like I could of written these myself! We need to fill ourselves up with joy. – Busy mom, teacher & wife

    January 15, 2018 at 6:30 pm Reply
  • Ana Leamon

    Hi!
    I find inspiring to read about others resolutions. I agree with some of yours. I also try to not overcharge me with pressures too much!. I managed to read 1 book a month last year and will keep it up this year. My marriage and self care are also in the list as well as being present specially with my kid.
    Happy 2018, hope is full with blessings and power to achieve all of your resolutions!

    January 15, 2018 at 8:10 pm Reply
  • Theresa

    Great resolutions! I have read and self care on my list too..I have a 2 month old so I should read more while feeding rather than play on my phone…

    January 15, 2018 at 9:33 pm Reply
  • Terri

    Thank you for sharing. Your New Year’s resolutions sound great! I wish you and your family the best in 2018!

    January 16, 2018 at 3:39 am Reply
  • Christy Hampton

    Hello Katherine – This is my first time visiting your blog. I have followed you on Instagram for a while now but rarely do I actually take the time to read through posts but I’m super happy that I did that tonight. If I hadn’t taken the time to read through some of the posts I would not have seen that you have a blog. Thank you for sharing these resolutions with us. I found you to be very inspiring. After a hard last year, I’m taking time to self reflect on areas that I need to reorganize and change to be the best “Me” for me and my son and reeading this really helped inspire me in a lot of ways. Thank you!

    January 16, 2018 at 5:53 am Reply
  • Antonela

    I love all your resolutions. I might even steal some. I haven’t been very inspired for the past couple of years and I seem to be last on the list all the time. I don’t dye my hair or exercise or eat right. I am a book fanatic and just can’t make time for anything that pleasures me especially. I focus all my energy on working as a night shift ER nurse, studying for a career that just isn’t happening (nurse practitioner), cooking, cleaning, cleaning, cooking (no it’s not a typo), taking care of my beautiful/amazing 2 year old, fitting my husband in there somewhere (forget romance) and all the other little chores. You made me realize I just don’t fit into the picture anymore. I hope I can better myself somehow. Thanks for the inspiration. Love your blog. No time for friends either so this helps.

    January 16, 2018 at 12:04 pm Reply
  • Mary Kay

    These are great!

    Have you ever done the thing where you pick a word at the beginning of the year that encompasses what you want the coming year to embody? I pick “simplify” a lot, because I believe less is more. This year, I figured it’s the theme of my life already! I need to branch out a little. So, this year, after much thought, I’ve picked “experience.” I resolve to try new things.

    I wish you all the best in 2018! ♥️♥️♥️

    January 16, 2018 at 5:32 pm Reply
  • Carolanne Kilichowski

    Hi there!
    Once a month with hubby is NOT enough. Once a week is more like it to touch base and just
    be hubby and wife. I know this lady who has 13 kids…..a few grandchildren so many are older now
    but she takes a day a week for a date with hubby. It is VERY important. I had a pilgrimage co.
    and took my husband whenever I could. I went to most of France, north to south, Rome and she Italian cities, Medjugorje in Croatia, Spain, and the Holy Land was the best!!!
    Now because of age and his health I can no longer travel with him. He has dialysis twice a week and it is impossible. I would love to be with him in Rome. I love that city and the first movie he took me to was, “Rome Adventure!” LOL ask him to sit through a romantic movie now!!! But anyhow I count my blessing as I had the love of his guy since I was 14(now 70 EEEEK)! So take it from experience….ENJOY while you can. Life goes buy all too fast.
    I can’t believe it. And people say the older you get the faster time goes….it sure feels that way.
    Please know your are in my prayers every day. I am a Catholic girl who loves my faith.
    Take care and God bless you and your family. All the best in 2018!!!

    January 16, 2018 at 9:20 pm Reply
  • Rhonda Huber

    I am so excited to have found your blog via instagram. I have been catching up on some of your old posts and they make me love you even more. I love that you have a close relationship with your mom, my daughters and I are very close too!
    I love that you are authentically you and you are humble and kind (exactly how I imagined you in “real life”).
    Anyway, I am a semi retired interior designer from Long Beach, CA and I especially enjoy spending my free time being creative. Your request for help with your office has me so inspired. I would love to help you out with some ideas and visual photos of your space. I just need still shot’s to accomplish it. I tried screenshots from your video and the quality wasn’t good enough. Here is an idea of what I am talking about, A video I created for a client: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_wETebeHCoQ
    Wishing you a 2018 that spills over with unexpected Blessings,
    Rhonda

    January 16, 2018 at 10:43 pm Reply
  • Rista Pieterse

    Hi you. How is Gracie doing? Thinking so much of her.

    January 17, 2018 at 9:00 am Reply
  • Susan Crotto

    Make sure you do more knitting! I liked hearing about your projects and would like to hear more knit news in the future. It could fall into the “doing something for yourself “ category. It lowers blood presuure. I love knitting and crocheting and love hearing about others yarnwork. Take care.

    January 18, 2018 at 12:55 am Reply
  • Kate G

    Reading! I so miss reading. So silly really, to say that I “miss” it- but how many minutes/hours/days are we not picking up a book.

    In November, I went to a glorious book store in Denver, bought a stack of books. I’m embarrassed to say I’ve still not read any of them. One of my “goals/resolutions/whatever” is to read more. Type less.

    That resolution loses a little power when I write this, but whatever.

    PS- thanks for the lead on Purl Soho. I’ve picked up some great goodies from the site!

    January 18, 2018 at 2:42 am Reply
  • Lomasluv

    My focus on living a better life mirrors your list for the most part.I love your view on fear.I’ve gotten a lot better at conquering my fears this past year,so I completely get you there.I’ve realized self care is totally important as well. I have taken to spending a night or two at little inn with my s/o. I try to do it each month.It enables me to cope much better with life in general in a happier ,peaceful frame of mind.
    I wish you well with the things you would love to accomplish this year.☺

    January 18, 2018 at 4:20 pm Reply
  • Carlyle

    I recently tried to use your ‘contact me’ page, and my message wouldn’t send. Just an FYI. Happy New Year!

    January 18, 2018 at 5:04 pm Reply
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      January 18, 2018 at 5:08 pm Reply
  • Syuzanna

    Dearest Katherine,
    Thank you for sharing your deepest thoughts with us! I love the idea of “ to resolve”! I gave up on making resolutions a while back due to difficulties to stick to the promise throughout the year… however, this year, after my husband got me an organizer ( which he didn’t think was an organizer haha), I decided to start hitting down my goals and how I’d like to improve myself. Your list is very doable and inspired me to create a few of my own ( similar to yours). Yes, we need to dedicate time to ourselves! I have a 3 year old and expecting another boy anytime now, so I can hardly imagine what my life will look like in a month under the weight of household care, raising children, pet care, and preparing for GRE exam…
    I’d like to suggest something, in 3 months from now, would you write another post reflecting on the list? Meaning, a simple follow up to see whether it is working to stick to the list..
    always yours,
    Syuzanna

    January 19, 2018 at 1:20 pm Reply
  • Ann Nelson

    Love all these resolutions, especially committing yourself to to one day a week to your spirituality. Love that ❤️. I do let that slip through my fingers more than I’d like. I found that these daily devotionals of stories others tell (they are in my email every morning) give me some insight, sometimes cheers me up, but definitely helps me start my day. Anywho thanks for sharing your resolutions.
    https://www.crosswalk.com/devotionals/encouragement/

    January 21, 2018 at 1:07 pm Reply
  • Ann Nelson

    Love all these resolutions, especially committing yourself to to one day a week to your spirituality. Love that ❤️. I do let that slip through my fingers more than I’d like. I found that these daily devotionals of personal stories others tell (they are in my email every morning) give me some insight, sometimes cheer me up, but definitely helps me start my day. Thanks for sharing your resolutions.
    https://www.crosswalk.com/devotionals/encouragement/

    January 21, 2018 at 1:14 pm Reply
  • Joanne Gonzalez

    I am very glad to have found your blog. You are a kindred spirit. I am a new to the blogging world and I intend to do just the same thing you do: write my thoughts, embrace the woman I am created to be, inspire people. I can also connect to you because of one other thing, I share my own adoption story and I just love your perspective about it, your advocacies. It’s amazing how being in your blogsite gives me a fountain of inspiration and so much positive vibes. Let grace t ake over always and may this blog be even more fruitful than it is already. Thanks, Katherine.

    January 30, 2018 at 2:52 am Reply
  • Ivona

    Dear Katherine,
    Every time I read your blog, there is such warmth and lovinglly beautiful atmosphere. These are so wonderful decisions. I hope you will be happy doing all this stuff you have written down. As you said: “The beauty of resolutions though is that they are entirely within our own control. We can set them, do them, not do them, set a few more, change them or bag them all together and the only person we have to answer to about them is ourselves.”. This is a great thought and I couldn’t agree more.
    Oh, and I like the pictures with the mountains.. I am also a nature lover and according to me, you have a perfect choice of place to live, your house and decor, the surrounding, your family style. I like it all 🙂 And I am so happy that you share this so humbly with the people who really admire you and your work.

    Sending you much love, and I keep following your blog.

    Ivona

    February 8, 2018 at 1:48 pm Reply
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