New Years Resolutions
I haven’t done New Year’s resolutions in years. In my mid twenties I decided they were chock full of added pressure to be perfect and I was already plagued with plenty of perfectionist anxiety. This year however, I changed my mind. There was something calling me to put down in writing just a handful of things I’d like to resolve to do. This isn’t a “go big or go home” kind of resolution list. It is a quieter, subtler one that I truly believe I can achieve. It is a list of five things I resolve to do, not want to do or hope to do or intend to do. I resolve to do…I will do, because I actually can.
1. I Resolve To Commit To Three Days A Week Of Self Care.
What does that mean? Well, to me it means that I am determined to carve time out of my day just three days a week to do something for my mind, body or soul. I could have said three days a week of exercise or meditation or sacred ritual or pampering or journaling but I figured “self care” kind of encompasses all of that and all of that is what I mean.
2. I Resolve To Practice My Spirituality At Least Once A Week.
When I was a kid that meant attending church for three hours every Sunday. Now, it may still mean attending church on Sunday or it may mean skipping church and instead gathering my kids and husband around me to say a family prayer, burn some incense and set some positive intentions for the day, the week or the year. It may mean downloading Joel Osteen’s latest sermon and spending twenty minutes holed up behind closed doors to listen and experience his spiritual insight without interruption. It could even mean going for an hour long walking meditation where I drink in the glory of the heavens in the air around me. Whatever I decide it means on the day I choose to honor my resolution I will be sure that it is something that brings me closer to the grace, inspiration and blessings that are mine.
3. I Resolve To Read At Least One Book A Month That Inspires, Moves Or Simply Entertains Me.
Before kids, the blog, DIY and let’s be totally honest, the damn cell phone I used to read at least two to three books a month. I could crack open a book right after breakfast, make myself comfortable on the couch or even laying prone in bed, book held in arms straight above me and not move from that position for hours except to pee or eat. By dinner time I’d be more than half way through and if it was a really good book I’d stay up until the wee hours of the morning to finish it. Good God I miss those days! Though they are gone until the last of my children leave the nest, I know if I put my phone away at night instead of scrolling through my news feed, or Instagram or crushing one more level of Candy Crush I would have time to get through at least two to four chapters of a good book before sleep overtakes me. I may not be able to dedicate an entire day to reading as I once did but I sure as hell can dedicate a few hours a week! The inspiration, clarity, enlightenment and entertainment I used to glean from all my reading made me a better, more educated and compassionate person. I’d like to get back to her this year and I resolve to do so.
4. I Resolve To Commit At Least Two Days A Week To My Writing Either By Doing Or By Learning.
I want to write. Maybe my love of books and stories is what set that particular candle burning but I really want to write. This blog has been an incredible opportunity for me to do just that but now I want to take it further. I want to try writing all kinds of things. Fiction, non fiction, short stories, long stories, essays, screenplays. I might be total crap but I’m tired of letting the fear of being total crap keep me from even trying. So I am determined this year to start putting in my 10,000 hours either by taking classes, reading how to’s or just doing it already. When a passion for something burns so deeply in you that it’s still smoldering twenty years after you first had the thought then I think you have to just go for it. The outcome doesn’t even really matter at this point. It’s more about honoring the fire and fanning the flame.
5. I Resolve To Taking At Least One Night A Month To Put My Husband And My Marriage First.
I bet a lot of us have got this one on their list. It’s pretty common I think to let kids, households, jobs, chores, workouts, dinners, groceries, friends, and pretty much everything else come before your spouse or your marriage. Josh and I are usually pretty good about reeling it back it when the marriage starts to slide but I want to need less reeling and have more date nights! I want us to get out of the house for an evening and make it about us, not fall exhausted into the couch in front of the tv cocktail in hand once the kids are in bed. Once a month someone else will help us put our children to bed and we will sty out late at our favorite restaurant eating dessert, sipping another drink and calling Uber to take us home.
I’m not sure I’ll stop with just these five and I’m not sure if I’ll stick to the rule of resolutions being a start of the new year tradition. Who’s to say that I can’t set a new resolution every month. Maybe every week if I want. I’ve already got a couple more brewing that should be written down. Like my need to spend more of my time living and focusing on the moment. Or my desire to spend an entire day by myself every once in awhile. I haven’t decided if I resolve to do these things or not, I’m being very mindful of not overwhelming myself with tasks, or to do’s because that would just defeat the purpose. The beauty of resolutions though is that they are entirely within our own control. We can set them, do them, not do them, set a few more, change them or bag them all together and the only person we have to answer to about them is ourselves. So I might regal you all with a few more next month, and the one after but I’ll let you know how these are coming first! Happy New Year my crafty friends! Here’s to two thousand great-teen!!